These days (and by “these days” I am implying to the day after giving birth to my second) I choose to forgo the shopping carts while at the grocery store, Target or Homegoods. I choose not to fight my eldest to stay in the cart – “Huntley, don’t you dare take that seatbelt off… Don’t stand up in the cart, you’ll fall!” Or fighting her to stay near if she’s going to walk – “Please don’t take that off the shelf dear… Don’t run…please come back…Huntley, don’t run! (As she bolts out of the supermarket and nearly runs into the street). These days, well these days… I keep moving along with the rest of the mommies who try to do everything: feed/read/bathe the kids, take them out to do/see things (i.e. Numerous Disneyland/Aquarium/Legoland/Zoo/Mall trips), do the dishes/laundry/sweep/mop/vaccuum, while still trying to balance social life, and more importantly a happy/loving relationship with the hubby.
I’ll be the first to admit…truly and honestly, I use to look at those parents who used “leashes” and/or had uncontrollable screaming kids in their strollers with a judgemental eye. However “these days” I can’t leave without a “leash” used for lack of a better word (which now I call a “harness”) or my double stroller with the seatbelt on the tightest setting since Huntley has a terribly brilliant mind and can easily figure out and take off or unlock loose seatbelts and other fasteners (say even a door lock or latch..eeks!) all while screaming her head of course. If it weren’t for these contraptions I don’t think I’d be able to get anything done!
Tonight we walked to Costco to pick up some groceries and dinner on the way out. My stroller served as our shopping cart and transportation yet again, even after a long day spent at California Disneyland lugging my double stroller (which Tanner and I have dubbed “the Rig”) around. It seems like every time we go out I hear “you’ve got your hands full” at least once. Or even that question, you know – the one I can’t even answer to this day – “how do you do it?” My response always with a chuckle, “I have no clue! Am I doing it?”
In the end, I’ve learned my lesson and it all boils down to the age-old saying “don’t judge a book by its cover!” Really! Especially about any one parenting style or technique because you never know – they might have their hands full!